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Social Life; or, The Manners and Customs of Polite Society
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- Social Life: OR The Manners and Customs of Polite Society 0:29
- BY MAUD C. COOKE, The Well-known and Popular Author. 0:46
- PREFACE. 1:10
- The Essence of Etiquette. 5:05
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Influence of Good Manners. 7:11
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Marks of True Politeness. 9:20
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Great Value of Courtesy. 10:46
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Rules of Etiquette. 12:54
- The Essence of Etiquette. — An English Custom. 16:38
- The Essence of Etiquette. — You May Introduce Yourself. 18:41
- The Essence of Etiquette. — A Custom Out of Date. 20:38
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Forms of Introduction. 22:42
- The Essence of Etiquette. — What Should Follow the Introduction. 24:41
- The Essence of Etiquette. — A Lady’s Wishes Should be Respected. 26:55
- The Essence of Etiquette. — SALUTATIONS. 27:59
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Removing the Hat. 30:07
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Privilege of Recognition. 31:57
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Returning Salutations. 34:01
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Shaking Hands. 35:41
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Words of Salutation. 37:48
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Good Listener. 42:09
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Suitable Topics. 43:19
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Misuse of Quotations. 45:00
- The Essence of Etiquette. — “Small Talk.” 45:51
- The Essence of Etiquette. — A Valuable Source of Knowledge. 47:28
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Cultivate Your Mind. 49:02
- The Essence of Etiquette. — “Drawing Out Others.” 49:56
- The Essence of Etiquette. — The Passion for Argument. 50:59
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Wit and Humor. 51:39
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Evil Speaking. 52:36
- The Essence of Etiquette. — “Telling Stories.” 53:55
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Absent-Mindedness. 54:54
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Profuse Compliments. 55:18
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Contradictions and Interjections. 55:56
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Voice and Manner. 56:47
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Conversational Sins. 58:38
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Use of the Lips and Facial Expressions. 1:00:41
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Control Your Temper. 1:02:41
- The Essence of Etiquette. — Misuse of Initials. 1:04:41
- Visiting Cards. 1:05:52
- Style of the Card. 1:07:07
- Size of the Card. 1:07:42
- Engraving the Name. 1:08:51
- Address on Cards. 1:13:44
- Cards for Gentlemen. 1:14:32
- Cards for Receptions. 1:16:04
- Foreign Phrases. 1:17:13
- P.P.C. Cards. 1:18:08
- Turning Down the Corners. 1:19:13
- How to Leave Cards. 1:19:57
- Number of Cards to be Left. 1:21:38
- Calls upon Young Ladies. 1:23:25
- How to Send Cards. 1:25:05
- When to Leave Cards. 1:25:24
- Entertainments and Calls. 1:27:16
- Other Hints. 1:28:48
- Various Cards. 1:30:54
- Acknowledgment of Inquiry Cards. 1:32:53
- Length of Visits. 1:35:14
- The Art of Leaving. 1:35:47
- When Ready to Leave, Go at Once. 1:37:05
- First Calls. 1:38:07
- Substitute for First Call. 1:40:58
- Morning and Evening Visits. 1:41:54
- Sunday Visits. 1:42:24
- Reception Days. 1:42:43
- “Not at Home,” “Engaged.” 1:43:42
- Visiting List. 1:46:20
- Visits Between Ladies and Gentlemen. 1:46:59
- “Out of Society.” 1:48:45
- Conduct of the Hostess. 1:49:24
- Entertaining Callers. 1:50:09
- Conduct of the Guests. 1:51:40
- Deference to Ladies. 1:53:52
- What Not to Do. 1:55:47
- The Reception-Room. 1:58:21
- Note Paper for Invitations. 2:02:15
- Invitation Cards. 2:02:55
- Written Regrets. 2:04:00
- Uninvited Guests. 2:05:04
- Inviting Married People. 2:05:21
- Dinners. 2:05:50
- Asking for Invitations. 2:09:27
- Evening Parties, Balls and “At Homes.” 2:10:22
- Masquerades. 2:14:16
- Musicales, Soirées and Matinées. 2:14:40
- Garden Parties. 2:15:59
- Breakfasts, Luncheons and Suppers. 2:17:08
- Teas and “Kettledrums.” 2:18:33
- Kaffee Klatsch. 2:20:12
- Suppers. 2:20:30
- Coming-out Parties. 2:20:43
- Receptions. 2:22:28
- Weddings. 2:24:09
- How Invitations are Sent. 2:25:54
- Wedding Invitations. 2:27:31
- Announcement Cards. 2:30:23
- Wedding Anniversaries. 2:31:43
- “No Presents Received.” 2:32:36
- Revise the Visiting List. 2:32:55
- Answering an Invitation. 2:33:59
- Accepting a Dinner Invitation. 2:35:51
- Accepting a Dinner Invitation. 2:37:36
- Declining a Dinner Invitation. 2:38:51
- Persons in Mourning. 2:39:54
- Addressing the Answer. 2:40:57
- Wedding Invitations. 2:41:34
- Wedding Anniversaries. 2:42:36
- Theater and Opera Parties. 2:43:32
- Luncheons and Suppers. 2:43:59
- Other Invitations. 2:44:21
- Refusing After Acceptance. 2:44:53
- What Not to Do. 2:45:25
- Errors of Love-Making. 2:48:02
- How to Carry on Courtship. 2:50:10
- A Case to the Point. 2:51:59
- Choice of Associates. 2:54:07
- First Steps. 2:55:10
- Character. 2:56:20
- Disposition. 2:57:06
- Trifling. 2:58:33
- Etiquette of Making and Receiving Gifts. 2:59:31
- Proposals of Marriage. 3:01:10
- Unbecoming Haste. 3:03:52
- How to Deal with Objections. 3:05:17
- Sealing the Vow. 3:10:34
- A Full Understanding. 3:12:24
- Important Trifles. 3:13:49
- Love Feeds on Love. 3:16:17
- The Best of all Possessions. 3:18:32
- The Source of Miseries. 3:20:03
- How to Cherish Love. 3:22:09
- Conduct Toward Parents. 3:23:24
- Length of Engagements. 3:24:20
- Broken Engagements. 3:25:05
- Etiquette of Married Life. 3:26:41
- The Art of Agreeableness. 3:27:56
- Duty Toward One Another. 3:28:55
- Home Attire. 3:30:30
- Household and Personal Expenses. 3:31:48
- A Pleasant Disposition. 3:33:56
- Boarding Versus Home Life. 3:35:10
- Paying for the Cards. 3:37:55
- Naming the Day. 3:39:59
- Announcing the Engagement. 3:41:15
- Wedding Gifts. 3:42:25
- List of Invitations. 3:43:46
- Ushers. 3:44:15
- “The Best Man.” 3:45:20
- Bridemaids. 3:46:18
- A Church Wedding. 3:48:37
- After the Ceremony. 3:51:48
- The Reception. 3:53:41
- Refreshments. 3:54:31
- Rehearsals. 3:56:02
- The Wedding Breakfast. 3:57:10
- Departure. 3:58:31
- Home Weddings. 3:59:00
- Invitations to Church Weddings. 4:01:11
- Dress for the Occasion. 4:03:01
- Morning Costume. 4:05:17
- A Quiet Wedding. 4:07:08
- Re-marriage. 4:07:44
- The Ring. 4:08:50
- Reception Days. 4:10:27
- WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES. 4:10:58
- Suitable Presents. 4:12:00
- Speeches and Congratulations. 4:13:50
- Courtesies of Married Life. 4:16:09
- What Women Admire. 4:17:01
- What Men Desire. 4:17:44
- Fault-Finding. 4:19:23
- Home Conversation. 4:20:30
- Slang and Exaggerations. 4:23:19
- Some Do’s for Girls. 4:24:59
- Young Ladies, Take Heed. 4:26:47
- Some Do’s for Boys. 4:27:58
- Guard the Voice. 4:31:22
- How to Treat Servants. 4:32:55
- Have Rules and Enforce Them. 4:34:16
- Rights of Others. 4:35:48
- Power of Example. 4:37:47
- Keeping Promises. 4:38:59
- Talebearing. 4:39:47
- Truthfulness. 4:40:21
- Respectfulness. 4:40:42
- Obedience. 4:41:01
- Manner of Address. 4:41:30
- Interrupting Conversation. 4:43:06
- “Showing Off.” 4:44:26
- Reproof Before Others. 4:45:05
- Cleanliness and Order. 4:45:30
- Home Hints. 4:46:08
- “Visiting.” 4:47:43
- Slang, Profanity, Intemperance. 4:48:21
- At Table. 4:48:49
- Leaving the Table. 4:50:14
- Invitations. 4:52:10
- Host and Hostess. 4:52:54
- Whom to Invite. 4:53:45
- Seating the Guests. 4:55:44
- Laying the Table. 4:56:54
- A Well-Furnished Sideboard. 4:59:16
- Table Decorations. 5:01:07
- Lighting the Table. 5:03:05
- Serving the Dinner. 5:03:50
- How the Dishes are to be Passed. 5:05:26
- Serving the Different Courses. 5:07:10
- The Menu. 5:09:23
- Favors. 5:11:25
- Wines, and How to Serve Them. 5:12:14
- Gracefully Declined. 5:14:48
- Order of Precedence. 5:16:15
- Informal and Easy. 5:18:56
- French Terms. 5:19:48
- Right or Left Arm? 5:20:10
- Further Hints. 5:20:50
- American Dinner Services. 5:21:39
- Directions to Waiters. 5:23:15
- Salads and Desserts. 5:25:21
- Dinner Dress. 5:27:12
- Coming and Going. 5:28:02
- Functions. 5:28:30
- Dinner Favors. 5:29:26
- The Breakfast Table. 5:33:01
- Knives, Forks and Napkins. 5:35:01
- The Dinner Table. 5:36:56
- The Supper Table. 5:39:55
- The Lunch Table. 5:40:40
- Signs of Ill-Breeding. 5:41:05
- The Fork. 5:41:41
- The Spoon. 5:44:21
- The Knife. 5:45:34
- Adam’s Knives and Forks. 5:45:52
- Napkin and Finger-Bowl. 5:47:15
- Avoiding Fruit Stains. 5:48:42
- General Table Etiquette. 5:50:41
- How to Treat Waiters. 5:52:43
- Sundry Rules and Hints. 5:55:10
- Use of Knife and Fork. 5:56:52
- Disgusting Habits. 5:58:42
- Fruits. 6:00:15
- Invitations. 6:01:57
- Receiving. 6:03:40
- Should Make Every One Happy. 6:04:37
- Making Things Easy for the Hostess. 6:05:51
- Entertainment. 6:07:33
- Duties of the Guests. 6:07:57
- Beware of too Much Reserve. 6:09:21
- Hours of Arrival and Departure. 6:10:44
- RECEPTIONS. 6:11:41
- Evening Receptions. 6:13:38
- Morning Receptions or Matinées. 6:14:21
- Correct Dress. 6:16:53
- SUPPER PARTIES. 6:18:32
- A Simple Supper. 6:21:08
- A Game Supper. 6:21:58
- A Fish Supper. 6:22:27
- General Arrangements. 6:25:40
- Concerning the Music. 6:27:30
- Refreshments. 6:28:27
- Host and Hostess. 6:31:31
- Arrival and Departure. 6:32:46
- The Escort. 6:34:31
- Receiving Ladies. 6:35:58
- General Rules for Observance. 6:37:05
- Formality of Introductions. 6:38:41
- Attentions Paid to Ladies. 6:40:28
- For Ladies. 6:42:56
- DANCING. 6:44:07
- The Most Desirable Dances. 6:46:16
- No Favorites to be Allowed. 6:48:18
- Private Balls Given in Public. 6:50:31
- Public Balls. 6:51:09
- MASQUERADES. 6:52:28
- Choice of Costumes. 6:53:48
- Suitable Dress. 6:56:51
- Receiving Guests. 6:57:12
- The Entertainment. 6:57:48
- Invitations. 6:58:32
- Duty of Guests. 6:58:54
- MUSICALES. 7:00:38
- Arranging the Program. 7:01:48
- Arrangement of Performers and Guests. 7:04:43
- LAWN PARTIES. 7:06:01
- Amusements to be Provided. 7:08:15
- Tables and Refreshments. 7:10:08
- Seats. 7:13:08
- Lawn Parties for Charity. 7:14:47
- Concerning the Viands. 7:17:42
- Bill of Fare for Breakfast. 7:19:58
- Wedding Breakfast Menu. 7:20:26
- A Bachelor Breakfast. 7:21:57
- A Golden-Rod Breakfast. 7:22:20
- Choice Blending of Colors. 7:23:26
- LUNCHEONS. 7:24:51
- Luncheon Refreshments. 7:29:19
- Entering the Dining-Room. 7:29:45
- Lunch or Luncheon. 7:30:53
- Luncheon Favors. 7:31:35
- Some Betrothal Luncheons. 7:33:45
- Blue and White Tableware. 7:35:26
- A Dresden Luncheon. 7:36:32
- CONCERNING TEAS. 7:38:47
- High Tea. 7:39:06
- Menu. 7:40:35
- Five O’clock Teas, or “At Homes.” 7:42:25
- The Five O’clock Tea Table. 7:45:21
- Pages. 7:47:24
- Receiving Friends. 7:47:50
- The Eatables. 7:48:45
- “Bringing Out” a Débutante. 7:50:35
- Gentlemen Visitors. 7:52:38
- How to Leave. 7:53:23
- An Afternoon Tea-Saucer. 7:53:35
- “Pink and Blue Teas.” 7:54:34
- Invitations for Theater Parties. 7:57:44
- Dress for the Opera. 8:00:18
- Picnic Parties. 8:00:51
- What to Eat. 8:02:29
- Tongue and Sandwiches. 8:03:20
- Chaperons. 8:05:40
- A Marshmallow Toast. 8:07:05
- Roof Parties. 8:07:51
- Bachelor’s Parties. 8:09:11
- A Flower Party. 8:10:21
- Bicycle Teas. 8:10:56
- A Barn Party. 8:11:31
- Bachelor Women and their Entertainments. 8:13:45
- A Sandwich Spread. 8:14:39
- Private Theatricals. 8:15:36
- A Social Evening. 8:17:26
- Authors’ Parties 8:19:18
- Firelight Parties 8:19:43
- Conversaziones. 8:20:07
- A Country Dinner. 8:20:27
- Etiquette of Card Playing and Games. 8:21:55
- Outdoor Amusements. 8:23:30
- Hunting Parties. 8:24:09
- Archery, Lawn Tennis and Croquet. 8:24:35
- Boating and Yachting. 8:24:56
- Children’s Parties. 8:25:58
- The Christening. 8:30:02
- Attendance at the Ceremony. 8:31:13
- Godfathers and Godmothers. 8:32:57
- Candle Party. 8:34:01
- Christening Gifts. 8:35:35
- Dainty Presents for the Newcomer. 8:36:53
- CONFIRMATION. 8:38:07
- GRADUATION. 8:39:09
- Avoid all Extravagance. 8:39:46
- Funeral Invitations. 8:43:01
- Showing Respect for the Dead. 8:44:22
- To a Lady on the Death of her Husband. 8:45:21
- To a Friend on the Death of Her Sister. 8:46:41
- To a Friend on the Death of His Brother. 8:47:31
- To a Friend on the Death of Her Child. 8:48:10
- To a Friend on a Sudden Reverse of Fortune. 8:49:05
- Etiquette in Church. 8:50:53
- Etiquette of Fairs. 8:53:12
- Etiquette of Shopping. 8:54:50
- Etiquette of the Theatre, Opera and Concert. 8:56:50
- Between the Acts. 8:58:15
- Etiquette of the Street. 9:02:36
- Evading a Long Talk. 9:04:25
- ETIQUETTE OF RIDING. 9:06:02
- THE ETIQUETTE OF BOATING. 9:09:47
- Assisting Ladies to Their Seats. 9:10:20
- Who Should Row. 9:10:48
- A Popular Exercise. 9:11:15
- A Cycler’s Guide. 9:12:41
- Maids Do Duty. 9:13:42
- A Man’s Duty. 9:14:09
- Assisting the Lady. 9:15:01
- On the Road. 9:16:22
- For Protection Against Dogs. 9:17:42
- A Few Don’ts for Cyclers. 9:18:24
- Women’s Bicycle Rides. 9:20:23
- Length of the Ride. 9:21:52
- Skirts are an Abomination. 9:23:48
- A Pace Indicator. 9:25:41
- Don’t Dodge a Bicycle. 9:26:03
- Observing the Rules. 9:28:31
- Introduction of Friends. 9:30:15
- Barring Out Disputed Questions. 9:31:48
- Presiding at a Woman’s Club. 9:34:28
- Order of Business. 9:35:32
- Influence of Women. 9:37:27
- Effect of Cultured Manners. 9:39:01
- A Sympathetic Nature. 9:40:58
- Power through Repose. 9:43:06
- A Good Listener. 9:44:42
- How Men are Spoiled. 9:46:24
- Who Bows First? 9:48:07
- “Lady” or “Gentleman?” 9:48:52
- Misuse of the Term “Lady.” 9:49:33
- A Promissory Note. 9:52:03
- A Joint Note. 9:52:31
- A Receipt on Account. 9:52:51
- A Receipt in Full. 9:53:07
- Form for a Bill. 9:53:25
- What and What Not to Say. 9:53:38
- Various Hints on Etiquette. 9:54:52
- First Attentions for Ladies. 9:57:18
- Minor Usages of the Best Society. 9:59:22
- Breaches of Etiquette. 10:00:57
- The Recognized Head. 10:03:30
- Formal Calls. 10:05:13
- Ministers from Foreign Countries. 10:06:46
- The Three Languages. 10:09:32
- Harmonious Development of the Body. 10:11:22
- Relaxing the Muscles. 10:13:10
- Art of Breathing. 10:15:28
- Position of the Shoulders. 10:16:33
- Standing and Walking. 10:18:54
- Stair-Climbing. 10:21:22
- Art of “Letting Go.” 10:22:15
- On Corset Wearing. 10:23:21
- General Remarks. 10:24:33
- Stout and Thin. 10:28:56
- Tall or Short. 10:31:05
- Decorations. 10:32:41
- Décolleté Costume. 10:34:01
- Graceful Sleeves. 10:36:39
- Purchasing. 10:37:51
- The Young Girl. 10:39:16
- Diamonds and Precious Stones. 10:40:12
- Plump Women. 10:41:44
- Black Satin and Sparkling Jets. 10:44:13
- Complexion Determines Dress Colors. 10:45:52
- Combinations of Color. 10:47:44
- Red Hair, with Brown Eyes. 10:48:48
- Red Hair, with Gray or Green Eyes. 10:49:45
- The Ineffective Type. 10:50:00
- Stylish and Appropriate Jewels. 10:50:53
- Black Hair, Rather Sallow Skin. 10:52:13
- Black Hair, Clear Skin, Blue Eyes. 10:52:58
- Chestnut Hair, Fair Skin, Blue Eyes. 10:54:43
- Almost Any Color. 10:56:15
- Gray Hair. 10:57:47
- The Black Gown. 10:59:08
- Various Hints. 11:00:20
- The Choice of Colors. 11:01:07
- Harmony and Contrast of Colors. 11:02:38
- Dress at Home. 11:05:25
- The General Fitness. 11:07:13
- Common-Sense Sleeves. 11:08:42
- Gloves and Shoes. 11:10:39
- Artifices of the Toilet. 11:12:04
- When to Wear Jewels. 11:13:50
- Use of Scents and Flowers. 11:16:08
- The Face Veil. 11:17:27
- When to Wear Gloves. 11:18:25
- When to Wear Low-cut Gowns. 11:19:33
- Ball Dress. 11:20:36
- Opera Dress. 11:21:28
- Theater Costume. 11:22:37
- Dinner Dress. 11:23:12
- Traveling Notes. 11:24:49
- Bridal Dress. 11:26:13
- Bridemaid’s Dress. 11:28:29
- What Wedding Guests Wear. 11:28:55
- Ordinary Evening Dress. 11:29:27
- Dress for Church. 11:30:17
- Receiving Calls. 11:30:45
- Calling or Visiting Costume. 11:31:26
- Walking Dress. 11:31:58
- Carriage Dress. 11:32:14
- Dress for Lent. 11:32:59
- Dress for Riding. 11:33:59
- Lawn Parties. 11:34:39
- Picnics and Excursions. 11:34:51
- Croquet, Archery, Skating, Etc. 11:35:06
- Bathing Dress. 11:35:31
- Yachting Dress. 11:35:57
- Dress for Gentlemen. 11:36:09
- Evening Dress for Gentlemen. 11:38:01
- Morning Dress for Gentlemen. 11:39:39
- Wedding Dress for Gentlemen. 11:40:07
- Gloves for Gentlemen. 11:40:31
- General Hints. 11:40:53
- Evening Suit for Boys. 11:41:54
- A Rare Accomplishment. 11:43:25
- The Style, 11:44:26
- Grammar and Orthography. 11:46:15
- Handwriting, Paper and Ink 11:46:50
- Common Abbreviations. 11:53:19
- The Proper Salutation. 12:02:19
- Use of the Husband’s Name. 12:07:32
- Punctuation Marks. 12:11:06
- Writing the Superscription. 12:13:06
- Points to be Remembered. 12:15:15
- Titles. 12:16:44
- Domestic Titles. 12:17:20
- Social and Friendly Letters. 12:22:45
- Letters of Introduction. 12:23:38
- A Letter of Recommendation 12:27:17
- Letters of Condolence 12:28:33
- Letters of Congratulation 12:30:55
- Proposals, Engagements, “Naming the Day,” 12:33:58
- Notes Accompanying a Gift 12:35:01
- Notes of Apology 12:36:20
- Notes of Postponement 12:37:31
- Notes of Request or Refusal 12:38:17
- Business Letters 12:39:38
- Answers to Advertisements 12:40:58
- Some Don’ts and Do’s for Letter-Writers. 12:42:57
- Fireplaces and Windows. 12:48:50
- Stairways. 12:49:58
- Woodwork. 12:50:28
- Doors. 12:52:43
- A Door Divan. 12:53:30
- An Improvised Bookcase. 12:54:10
- Screens. 12:54:42
- Draperies. 12:59:00
- Some Useful Bits of Furniture. 13:00:49
- A Hanging Desk. 13:02:32
- A Window Desk. 13:04:15
- A Hall Chest. 13:05:12
- Cozy Corners. 13:06:11
- Plenty of Pillows. 13:08:24
- A Corner Closet. 13:10:58
- Piano Decoration. 13:13:54
- Lighting. 13:15:26
- Decorating. 13:15:42
- Home of the Soul. 13:18:03
- Some Lovely Rooms. 13:19:22
- As to Furniture. 13:22:04
- Pictures. 13:24:16
- Mottoes. 13:26:13
- Treatment for a Rough Skin. 13:29:51
- Reducing Flesh. 13:30:55
- Refreshing Sleep. 13:32:02
- How to Take Care of the Eyes. 13:34:11
- The Hair and How to Take Care of It. 13:35:29
- An Excellent Head Covering. 13:37:05
- Recipe for the Complexion. 13:39:19
- Care of the Lips. 13:39:45
- Remedies for the Lips. 13:41:15
- Smoothing Out the Wrinkles. 13:42:12
- The Feminine Waist. 13:44:33
- Beautiful Arms. 13:45:55
- Treatment for the Hands. 13:49:29
- Scissors and Nail-brush. 13:50:09
- To Cure Burning of the Skin. 13:52:48
- Remedy for Chilblains. 13:54:13
- Foot-Wear. 13:56:37